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Heidi and Seal are No More!

23 Jan

It is official.  The glorified pair, Heidi and Seal, the gazelle and songbird, has casually called it quits. This comes as a shocker to most since this newly separated couple had a reputation for finding new ways to put their love on display for the world to see.

Whether they were getting hot in heavy in Seal’s music video for the single “Secret,” performing a duet at the Victoria Secret Fashion Show, annually renewing their vows of their seven-year marriage, or spotted with their four kids, their union looked unbreakable.

Heidi ann Seal with the children

At Victoria Secret Fashion Show 2007

The Today Show even reported to Heidi having a tattoo of Seal’s name, symbolizing her commitment to him.  Matt Lauer of the Today Show jokingly said Heidi has the option of being a spokesperson for Sealy’s Mattresses.   

When justifying the split, it was reported to be unanimous among the two that they have grown apart.  However, TMZ says this is not the case.

According to the entertainment news medium, it was Seal’s temper and career differences that drove this couple to disaster.

Seal and Heidi in the "Secret" music video

Regardless of what caused the demise of the Heidi and Seal reign, the age old lesson to be learned in this situation is not to judge a book by its cover because everything that glitters ain’t gold.

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When Being a “Bitch” Works

22 Jan

When a woman takes on the “bitch” role, she may radiate the perception that she is holding on to baggage. This hard exterior can give off the impression that this woman doesn’t have the capability to maintain an enjoyable relationship.

However, partially due to popular culture, there has been talk that the “bitchy” attitude can possibly attract and keep interest.

Last week, while I was driving home from school and Hot 97 was blaring in the car, “Make Me Proud” by Drake came on for the millionth time and I took the chance to listen to the lyrics meticulously.  The words that grasped most of my attention were in the first verse.  They went as follows:

“ A little attitude problem all good, it’ll make the shit last.
Don’t make it too easy, girl, don’t take it too fast…”


These words got me thinking, do guys  really go for girls with an attitude?  Do guys really like “bitchy” girls?

Have you ever witnessed  a girl who had the worst attitude and still able to have a line of men groveling for her?  She is an ice princess who is indecisive with the personality of the stereotypical supermodel but lacks the supermodel look and still capable of snagging a man or two.

Instead of keeping  their distance from women like this, you can find men gravitating toward them whereas, when a woman is too nice, the interest of the man decreases by the minute.  It is almost as if the men like the abuse.

Although being the nice girl seems like an easy good ole’ time, a woman who is too nice may run the risk of failing to convey her self-worth.  It also can look like a desperate attempt to gain approval.  Agreeing with everything a man says is an example of an eager  attempt to get then to like you.  Men are competitive so they like a little opposition from time to time and women shouldn’t   be afraid to give it to them.

Since nice guys finish last, is it safe to say the same for nice girls?


After surveying a number of men, Sherry Argov dedicated her book,  Why Men Marry Bitches,  to her discovery that a woman  with an independent mind and doesn’t give in all the time is more alluring.

It is all based on human nature.

Men like a challenge. Just like a woman thinks they can make the jerk off turn over his leaf, a man believes he can one day capture the heart of the ice princess.  It is almost like Shakespeare’s  Taming of the Shrew, a guy always wants what they can’t have.  The thrill of chasing the unobtainable is far more exhilarating.

Women who fear being distinguished as a “bitch,” coincide the term with nagging, bickering, rudeness, insensitivity, and even abuse.  Yet, this is not the type of “bitch” that men have grown to love.

In Why Men Marry Bitches, Argov defines the word “bitch” as  a confident and secure woman.

On GuySpeaks.com, Nick Nadel, a sucker for mean girls who recalls having a crush on his babysitter who use to lock him in the closet, shares his annoyance with a society who labels women who are strong-willed as bitches (a topic for another day).

If you want to start being the “bitch” every man wants, remember these necessary steps (just to name a few):

1.  Never jeopardize what you like or who you are for anyone, especially   not a man.

2.  Be Protective of your feelings and your own happiness.

3.  Don’t fell pressured to be physical before you are ready.

4.  Keep yourself a mystery.

Do Men Really Prefer Bitches?

New Day and Time for the “Love Hour” @ WRNU: The Campus Beat

18 Jan

Hello ladies and gents,

I’m back in gear with this whole blogging thing.  My first post of the year is dedicated to “The Love Hour,” a internet based radio show that I host at Rutgers-Newark.  Topics usually center around love, sex, dating, relationships, and single hood.  Along the way, we tend to be accompanied by special guests.  Normally the show airs on Wednesdays 6-8pm.  However, this spring semester we want to try something different.  Our new time slot, starting next week, is now Tuesday 6-8pm.  To listen, all you have to do is go to wrnu.info and click LISTEN LIVE.  I will also provide a link below.  Additionally, the station has made it possible to access shows via your mobile device.

Throughout the rest of the year, you can look to Unscriptedlovers (this blog) for the latest on the “Love Hour” and WRNU.

WRNU: The Campus Beat

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