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Today on the “Love Hour” 6-8pm: SEXpectations Part II

27 Nov

If you missed out last week on our discussion on sexual expectations, here is your lucky chance to tune in again. We had so much info that we weren’t able to reveal it all in the past show. So today our goal is to complete the sexpectation chronicles.

We will continue with the cultural effect on sexual expectations and how porn can create unrealistic desires. Also look forward to sex positions that may make you a step closer to reaching your sexual peak.

Among the topic of today, expect our infamous zodiac run down and celebrity buzz.

Go to wrnu.info to listen live and call in @ 973 353 5746 to be on air…

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Today on the “Love Hour” 6-8pm: He/She Just Not That Into You + Signs Your A Booty Call

23 Oct

I understand that these are topics that are overdone due to the numerous movie adaptations to them.

You know the movies I’m talking about… “He’s Just Not That Into You“… “Booty Call.”

Yet, I feel like they still need to be discussed because although we know there are red flags, we still fall for them.

We can find ourselves giving a person tones of chances and constantly making excuses for why they haven’t let us in. We try to convince ourselves that they are just too busy or going through a lot.

As a result, some will jump through certain loops just so the person can eventually like them.

Well today, I want to give you some forewarning that can bail people out of this predicament.

Look forward to a unisex list on if a person is just not that into you. Additionally, we will have separate list for the men and women (I mean, we are from different planets). Lastly (my favorite) signs that you are just a booty call.

In the beginning of the show expect our weekly zodiac description, celebrity buzz, and (a newbie) the question of the day [What would you do to get out of the friend zone?].

Don’t be shy to call in and give your opinions on air @ 973 353 5746. Tune it @ wrnu.info.


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Today on ‘The Love Hour’: ROUGH SEX!

9 Oct

So what is rough sex? A majority of people give it the generic definition of ropes, whips, and handcuffs.  However, the definition could be a variation of things depending on all parties involved.  I’m sure if we asked a room full of people this question, we would get a widespread of answers based on their different experiences.

For some reason the topic has intrigued the masses.  Maybe it is because the subject is so taboo.  Then it could be that whole 50 Shades Of Grey book.  Either way, its popularity has given us the opportunity to discuss the reality and myths of the art rough sex.

In this show look forward to learning the different levels of rough sex, the do’s and don’ts, and how to incorporate it in your love life if necessary.

To tune in got to wrnu.info.  Call 973 353 5746 to be on air.

Today On “The Love Hour”: How Media Defined Love and Where We Are Now

25 Sep

Today on “The Love Hour” from 6-8pm we will be analyzing the type of manipulation media places on use when it comes to love and romance. You can also look forward to us dissecting what love really is scientifically. Expect us to ponder the question of why people long for companionship. Is it the same reason why the world has so many serial daters? What is it to be a serial dater? We will conclude the show with a confession from one.

To listen go to wrnu.info and call in at 973 353 5746 to be on air.

Today On “The Love Hour”: Keeping The Flame Lit

18 Sep

Today on The Love Hour (@theluvhour) we will be on air discussing the infamous topic on how to keep the relationship (or whatever it is) alive.  We will be sure to get a lot of insight from both sexes.

Part of it is figuring out the key to a happy relationship.  Is sex the most important factor? Rumor has it that sex takes up 80% of the relationship.

So what if the sex is bad? We will analyze whether that is an excuse to go elsewhere for pleasure. Would cheating be and option? What about an open relationship? How about swapping partners?  We’ll try and figure it out tonight.

Another outlet may be to explore ourselves. Can masturbation solve the problem?  There are certain techniques that definitely rock my world.

As a prelude to the topic we will be warming you up with zodiac descriptions and celebrity buzz.

This will go down tonight (Tuesday) 6-8pm.  Go to wrnu.info and connect.  Call in to be on air at 973 353 5746. Stay informed on our Twitter page @theluvhour.

My Feature Story on “Fifty Shades of Grey” (When it was trending)

28 Aug

I finally decided to upload the feature story on Fifty Shades of Grey that I had to do for my final project in my Advanced Reporting class last Spring Semester.  This was done during the week of Thursday, May 10th, before the author E.L. James left to return to her home in the U.K.  I hope you enjoy.

Beginning as a game of telephone between suburban housewives of New York, the popularity of the erogenous Fifty Shades trilogy by Erika James, better known as E.L. James, has spread across the nation like wildfire.

E.L. James

The craze of the suggestive literature started online with a majority of people purchasing the e-books, taking advantage of not being judged by the book’s cover.

Several months ago, printed versions of the series were exceedingly complicated to find. As reported by CBS New York’s Hazel Sanchez in March, copies were so scarce that a used book could be brought online for almost a thousand dollars.

In April the trilogy was reissued by Vintage Books, a division of Random House Publications.  Last Tuesday, the publication announced over 10 million copies had been sold with daily reprints surpassing 900,000.  These statistics made the series the most rapid selling in history.

Besides being acknowledged for topping the charts and as a three time New York Times bestseller, the fleshy Fifty has been the core of gossip among the masses and the central topic in network programming. In addition to becoming a parody on “Saturday Night Live,” the trilogy has been held responsible for reigniting the fire in relationships. However, with all the positive responses, the collection of novels received a great deal of criticism.

See SNL 50 Shades Parody below:

The saga began when, according to Entertainment Weekly, James, a pleasantly plump wife of a TV script writer and mother of two teenage boys from West London who fancies a smoke from time to time, grew tiresome of her job as a TV producer in January 2009 and searched for other outlets that could possibly bring her gratification.

Upon her pursuit for happiness, James discovered a fan fiction site dedicated to the celebrated “Twilight” vampire novel trilogy by Stephanie Myers, an author that James’ dedicates most of her stimulus for creativity.

Under the alias Snowqueens Icedragon, James, who never gives out her real age but owns up to being in her 40’s, started writing a thread on the fan fiction site named “Master of the Universe,” a tale similar to “Twilight” that mirrored its Washington state setting and main characters Bella Swan and Edward Cullen.  Soon the characters and story shifted to her own and James became the first time author of “Fifty Shades of Grey,” the premiere  book of her trilogy that was originally  published by The Writer’s Coffee Shop Publishing House, a small Australian Press.

Bella and Edward from “Twilight”

Like Bella in “Twilight,” James’ leading lady, Anastasia Steele, is a pale brunette living chastely while her counterpart, Christian Grey, like Bella’s Edward, is a work of art. Grey is a 27 year old self made Seattle telecommunications tycoon  while Steele, age 21, is a newly  college graduate embarking on a liberal arts career.

While the “Twilight” lovers face a human vs. supernatural  barrier, Steele and Grey encounter more of a realistic obstacle that becomes an ongoing strain in their relationship throughout the Fifty series. The hurdle they must jump is their difference in lifestyle.

As the pasty dark haired virgin lives a life of innocence, Grey introduces her to his world of BDSM, an acronym combining the words bondage and discipline (B/D), dominance and submission (D/S), and sadism and masochism (S/M).

After having Steele sign a contract agreement to be his weekend Submissive with guidelines they both must obey, Grey welcomes her into his “Red Room of Pain” crammed with chains, flogs, cuffs, whips, and other sexual instruments familiar to the BDSM community.

Due to its context, the trilogy has been classified by a majority as “mommy porn” and a unusual love story that is launched by a submission sex fantasy, making it an notorious topic with most media outlets and a concern to some specialists.

The rising phenomenon of the Fifty trilogy has caused a demand amongst experts and commentators to debate and ponder whether the literature surfaces an oppression notion or liberatory function.

In Entertainment Weekly, writer Lisa Schwarzhaum reported that Jill McDevitt, sexologist and owner of  a West Chester, Pa., feminist sex shop named Feminique Boutique, believes the book parades an abusive relationship between Grey and Steele and illuminates an distorted image of the BDSM lifestyle.

”He tells her when to eat, he stalks her and goes into jealous rages every time she’s talking to her male friends. I’m like, that has nothing to do with BDSM,” said McDevitt.  “That’s just a good old-fashioned abusive, controlling boyfriend”

Additionally, on the Today Show in March, Dr. Drew Pinsky, an American board-certified internist and addiction medicine specialist, furthered the abusive concept by suggesting the bondage, submission, and physical pain that Steele endures in Fifty depicts violence toward women.

“The swept away fantasy is common,” said Dr. Drew.  “But it’s going beyond that into actual violence against women.”

Accompanying Dr. Drew on The Today Show was Dr. Logan Levkoff, a renowned sexologist and author of “How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex with You,” who confessed to reading the Fifty series  in less than 48 hours.  She found it complicated as a women and professional to see how the erotica endorses violence toward women.

“The girl [Steele] does have different control and senses, I want us to be clear,” said Dr. Levkoff in a way that anyone could detect her passion for the material.  “This particular community has very orchestrated rules and negotiations.  This is a romantic romanticized version of that. This is consensual.  It doesn’t depict rape.”

See the discussion between Drew and Levkoff on The Today Show:

Dr. Drew and others alike may confuse James’ fictional work with the victimization of women because they have a rudimentary idea of the meaning of BDSM.  They mistake the lifestyle for nothing other than pleasure for pain.  However, the culture is more complex than that.

In one of her post for the Huffington Post online, Dr. Levkoff emphasized how BDSM focuses on the exploration of altered power dynamics, responses, and restrictions with plenty of discussion and planning before hand.

Granted she doesn’t want to be held accountable for it, Frances Bartkowski, a chairperson of the Department of English and a former director of Women and Gender Studies at Rutgers University, Newark campus, also intellectually defined BDSM.

Frances Bartkowski

“It strikes me as a set of practices that involve some people letting other people take charge and that can be done in a variety of ways,” said Bartkowski.  “Whether we are talking about being confined either in certain kinds of clothing, in certain kinds of instruments, and other people having the permission to fine the pleasure in that difference of position.”

Contrary to what Dr. Drew may believe, according to cognoscenti like Dr. Levkoff and Barkowski, the submissive has an immense deal of authority.

“If you read the literature on S&M,  the smartest people will tell you that it is really the submissive who is really in charge because they are the ones who set the limits of what they feel safe doing and having done to them,” said Barkowski.  “They are the ones with the safe word when things are suppose to stop, and the other person is the one taking the instruction from the one who is supposedly submissive.”

This is made apparent in “Fifty Shades of Grey,” the first book of James’ trilogy, when the appendix of Grey’s contract agreement gives Steele the control to use safe words like “yellow” for caution and “red” for stop.

In Maureen Dowd ’s New York Times article, “She’s Fit to be Tied,” a Harvard educated dominatrix, who coined the name Jennifer Hunter, stressed that a good dominant knows that the submissive is really the governing partner.

“All a submissive woman has to do is relax and enjoy the ride while delicious sexual acts are visited upon her,” said Hunter.  “She’s the star of the proceedings. Someone is ministering to her needs.”

Thus, to reiterate the issue that emerged, is this form of submission oppressing the female race?  Similar to the question Savannah Guthrie of the “Today Show” asked, is this book taking the women’s movement backwards?

While Barkowski suggested that there is so much going on in the world that is taking women back that this BDSM loves story  hardly seems like the place to start, Dr. Levkoff blatantly said “I don’t think it’s political.”

Even Laura Berman, a professional sex therapist,  affirmed on the “Today Show” that in a new generation where women are more influential than ever before, the most common female fantasy is a submission or domination fantasy where they are taken out of there controlled environment.

“If we look at history we have the women’s movement which was really about empowering women not to be submissive to men anymore,” said Berman.  “The glass ceiling has been broken. We have as much control as we want. What are we longing for? A little bodice ripping,” she continued with certainty.

Seconding Berman’s notion were women of Florida’s Boca Raton Book Club who also appeared on the “Today Show.”

“It’s nice for a man to take over in the bedroom than you having to please the man after you have just made dinner and did everything else,” said one Boca Ration member among a circle of her fellow book clubbers, glasses of white wine, and copies of the Fifty trilogy.

Along with prevailing women, there are equally career driven men who also yearn for that sense of acquiescence.  After her presence on the “Today Show,” Dr. Levkoff accentuated in a blog post for the Huffington that the story of Fifty is only one depiction of a vast community and that there are many women in the lifestyle who dominant over men who are eager to submit with devotion.

Tracy Clark-Flory, a writer for the Salon, interviewed Mistress Shae Flanigan, a dominatrix of Los Angeles, Ca, whose clientele consist of prominent business men. She confirmed that, at times, these powerful men are looking for a quick leave from their entitlement that can only be provided by submission.

“They come to me to create an environment where they don’t need to think. Where they can trust me to keep them safe while I weave together an enticing, thrilling, euphoric and painful world where it is literally impossible to think,” said Flanigan.  “BDSM is a hell of a lot more affordable of a vacation than the Bahamas, I promise you.”

Although the Fifty booksare causing great hoopla throughout the nation, some like Bartkowski don’t understand the hype  since romance fiction is always based on submission  and  this form of erotica has already been achieved.  During the discussion, Bartkowski brought and old story of dominant submissive relations to the forefront.

“There is a little history of controversial text, I’m thinking Story of O,” said Bartkowski.  “It is  classic story of a young woman in submission to powerful men.”

Story of O

In her article previously mentioned, while analyzing the Fifty trilogy, Dowd included a comparison to “Story of O.”

The erotic novel, written in France by Anne Desclos under the nom de plume of Pauline Reage and published in 1954, is about a stunning female fashion photographer named O who willingly enters the realm of submission and joyfully endures harsh sexual treatment by the authoritative  Sir Stephen, O’s love interest, and his guests of other men of the crème de la crème.

Dowd reached further back in the historical archives and zoomed in on a 1740 novel written in two volumes by Samuel Richardson called “Pamela, or Virtue Rewarded,” a story about a teenage servant girl, Pamela Andrews, and her aristocrat master, Mr. B, who becomes besotted with her.  He keeps her captive in one of his estates.  After numerous failed attempts to seduce and rape Andrews, Mr. B is overcome by her virtue and puts their different classes aside to take her hand in marriage.

Although dominant, Grey is not as overbearing as the monstrous men in “The Story of O” and “Pamela, or Virtue Rewarded.”  Characterizing him as a lover of Frank Sinatra and a believer in monogamy, James established a softer side of her grey eyed and copper haired Don Juan.

Since the dominant-submissive theme has circled around more than once in various novels, Bartkowski is baffled about the astonishment over Fifty and why it is receiving various backlash.

“I’m not sure that there is anything new there except that it has some more kinks I gather,” said Bartkowski.  “If I had the book in my hand I guess I would ask why is this such a turn on?  Is it the language?”

In Dowd’s opinion, James’ writing style lacks literary flair. Yet, the abundant electronic downloads and print sales of the trilogy has proven that the words or overly attractive to housewives and then some.

CBS New York news featured Michele Yogel, a mother of Westchester, NY, who admitted to being infatuated with the explicit linguistics of the book.

“Its the sex really,” said Michele Yogel.  “Because I don’t think it’s the worlds best piece of  literature but you start reading it and you can’t put it down..”

Housewives like Yogel praised Fifty’s obvious fictional sexuality, that is notched up to the level of whips and chains, for expanding the imagination that laid dormant in some women.

Dr. Levkoff is certain that the book has triggered women to step out of their comfort zones and explore fantasies that they wouldn’t actually do in real life.

Bartkowski suggested that the literature is a resource for women to have a healthy mental experience that is sexually vindicating.

“I  think the people who are reading it are feeling somehow freed, if only in their fantasy life.  That has been the work of sexual liberation whenever and where ever it appears,” said Bartkowski.  “To let it out.  Carrying it around leads to the things that do harm women. It is a channel for women’s fantasies.”

In addition to helping them flee away from their sexual inhibitions, housewives have been grateful to Fifty for enhancing the magic that occurs in the bedroom.

Hazel Sanchez of CBS New York discovered in March that suburban housewives, like blogger Stacy Geisinger of Westchester, praise the trilogy for saving their marriages.

Geisinger professed that a couple of her married friends actually went out to purchase the sex toys that are introduced in the book in an attempt to mimic the sex scenes.

“They went to buy the specific items that are used in the book and the store was sold out,” said Geisinger.  “So its improving lives.”

The housewife displayed these frisky items on her blog, “Stacy Knows,” in a post entitled “Save Your Marriage: More Reasons to Read 50 Shades of Grey.”

So what did the first time author have to say about all the attention her literary work has received?  Several weeks ago at her book signing at Barnes & Nobles in New York’s Union Square, James gave her reactions during a conversation with Dr. Levkoff in front of a live audience.

Upon entering the popular bookstore a curving line of people were on exhibition at the cash register awaiting to buy part of the Fifty trilogy or the entire series as their golden ticket to witness the author of the latest erotica in person.  Whether it was a gift for Mother’s Day or for personal enjoyment, fans were spotted  with a towering stack of Fifty with at least a maximum of six copies anticipating James’ signature.

It was a little after 7p.m.and the night was near.  The top floor of B&N, where James and Dr. Levkoff would be speaking, was filled with an ocean of devotees eager to meet their beloved novelist.

When the acclaimed author and sexologist arrived, after posing for the press, the two sat before the crowd of hundreds and the conversation began.

With all that has transpired in the last few months, Dr. Levkoff was curious to know what has surprised the first time author the most.

James followed up Dr. Levkoff question with a glance toward the audience and simply answered in her British way, “This, hello everybody.” She continued uttering how she never expected to gain fame.

“I thought I was just writing this love story and here I am in New York in front of hundreds of people,” James said, attempting to speak amongst the cheering.  “I really didn’t figure this at all.  I’m just so grateful thank you, thank you.”

Along with Myers, James gave recognition to her play list she created called “Lets Write Sex” for motivating her to write the passionate love story. Shocking Dr. Levkoff and a number of members in the audience, James revealed that one of the songs on her play list was “Sexy” by the Black Eyed Peas.

“Sexy” by Black Eyed Peas:

While she believes her work creates a bond between the female race, James came clean that she didn’t quite understand why Fifty has been the center of so much polemics.

“I mean uh what can I say? I just really don’t get it,” said the puzzled author.  “I wrote this little love story. For me I think what it is that it brings women together, that‘s what it does,” she continued, protecting her masterpiece.

Although the author feels she has completed the graphic romantic tale of Steele and Grey, her fans at B&N chanted for more.

Their wishes are in the midst of coming true since the next step is converting the story from print to film.  Recently, James sold the movie rights to “Fifty Shades of Grey” to Universal and Focus Features for approximately $5 million.

While the glitz and glam of Tinsel Town can shift a person’s character, James made it apparent to Dr. Levkoff that it wouldn’t change her after expressing what she looked forward to doing once she returned home.

“I’m going to go home and do my laundry, shop with my children, and have sex with my husband,” she said shamelessly.

It is still up in the air whether or not James will continue her writing in the erotica realm.  No matter what she decides, women believe her primary work has made an everlasting imprint on their lives.  As a representative of her gender, Dr. Levkoff voiced her gratitude to James in the closing remarks of the conversation.

“You have inspired us. You have changed the way we see woman’s sexuality,” said Dr. Levkoff.  “You have changed the public discourse and really acknowledged that we are all sexual beings regardless of what we do and who we do it with and I think it is about damn time so thank you.”

Dr. Levkoff’s genuine compliment was followed by a roar from the fanatic crowd and James took off her thick black framed glasses and removed the strand of brunette hair from her face to wipe her tears of joy away.   Soon after, the book signing commenced.

See what fans had to say that day at the book signing about the novel being banned from libraries:

Today on “The Love Hour” from 6-8pm: 21+ Questions about Love and Sex

10 Apr

Last we after the cheating show, the radio crew and I headed over to McGovern’s for some drinks, food, and great conversation.  Once we got there and were in the midst of a good time, I had the great idea of going around in a circle and asking everyone the same question.  When the hour two questions arose:

1. What is your favorite feature on a man/woman?

2. What is your most shallowest turn off?

The questions definitely varied and were quite entertaining. Since I thought it was so much fun I figured we make it the theme of today on The Love Hour.  It will be similar to 1 Girl and 5 Gays a show on Logo, and MTV Network. However, today’s show will cater to all sexualities.

Expect questions like the following:

– If you had a sexual “to-do” list, what would be on top of the list?

– What’s the dirtiest text message you’ve ever received?

…and so much more!!

Accompanying us on the topic will be Chris Black,an inspiring rapper on the rise.  His song will be featured throughout the show.

As usual, before the questions begin, we will discuss our sexy zodiac signs, some celebrity buzz, and end the show with a Love Thought of the day.

To tune in go to wrnu.info and click LISTEN LIVE!  If want to answer a question or ask one yourself, call in at 973 353 5746 to be on air.

Watch a clip from “1 Girl and 5 Gays”

Today on “The Love Hour” 6-8pm: “Cheating Evolved”

3 Apr

In the good old days, cheating was considered a man’s sport.  While the men were out to play, women would go shopping to heal their wounds.  However, in recent years cheating has gained duality.  Practically anyone could be subjected to the demoralizing act.  Things that were considered FACTS about cheating has drifted into the myth category.  Meanwhile, what can be considered as cheating has made a huge expansion.

Yes, cheating is having sex outside of the relationship.  However, sex isn’t the only form of cheating.  Today on “The Love Hour” from 6-8pm, we will be uncovering the myths about cheating as well as its many faces. Before the topic of the night, we will be addressing all sexy zodiac signs and a recent celebrity hook up.  After the show, we will be toasting the night of with our “Love Thought of the Day.” To tune in go to wrnu.info and click LISTEN LIVE! To be on air, call in at 973 353 5746.  As a reminder, there is also and link on the website to listen via smart phone.

Today on “The Love Hour” from 6-8pm: Intellectual Foreplay

20 Mar

So did you hear  about ANOTHER reality show that VH1 is about to air called Couples Therapy?  It actually should be called Celebrity Couples Therapy because it is full of reality stars and has beens.

Even though I love the guy, I hate to see DMX on the show with his wife.  The network previewed this clip of him going crazy screaming “I NEVER WANTED TO GET MARRIED”.  The show also features Vienna Girardi who won The Bachelor season 14 with her current boyfriend, Kasey Kahl, who happens to be a former The Bachelorette season 6  contender. I even recognized this gay couple on there who starred in  The A list New York,  a reality show on Logo. There relationship was known to be based on the physical more than anything else.

As I was watching the preview of this show I contemplated on how destructive these relationships seemed. It looked like they didn’t even know how to communicate with one another.

Then I took it upon myself to Google intellectual love, which brings me to the topic of today’s show.  Upon my search I discovered Intellectual Foreplay. The link introduced me to this book, the title being the same as our topic with an author by the name of Eve Hogan (please view my prior post).  Maybe it was this Intellectual Foreplay these celebrity couples were missing.

Today on “The Love Hour” we will investigate what it really means to use Intellectual Foreplay.  Additionally, we will explore reasons why this method is so crucial to use before going the distance with someone you just met and guidelines on how to utilize the method.

Furthermore, expect our infamous zodiac sign sex tips and our Thought of the Day ( a new addition to the show).

To listen in go to wrnu.info and click LISTEN LIVE!!! To be on air call in @ 973 353 5746. Remember there is a link to listen via smart phone and we can now be heard on speakers throughout Rutgers-Newark campus.

20 Mar

Intellectual Foreplay To Be Discussed Today on “The Love Hour” from 6-8pm

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